Q&ALing Shan Temple Retreat22 Apr 2018
Q&A 02 — Learning from Anger Instead of Focusing on the Object
Sayadaw U Tejaniya · 4 min
Original audio: English · Chinese interpretation
0:00−4:19
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In this Q&A, a yogi asks how to handle anger and dislike arising toward her boss at work. The teacher explains that the external person is not important compared to the anger itself. Instead of avoiding the situation, one should observe the anger as a natural object to understand its nature and grow wisdom.
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Ling Shan Temple Retreat · 25 talks
- 11 hr 49 minOpening talk — Continuous Awareness and Right View21 Apr 2018
- 21 hr 14 minGroup 01 — Checking Mental States, Reaction to Pain and Natural Walking22 Apr 2018
- 317 minQ&A 01 — Physical and Mental Processes and Mind's Reaction to Pain22 Apr 2018
- Viewing44 minQ&A 02 — Learning from Anger Instead of Focusing on the Object22 Apr 2018
- 51 hr 50 minGroup 02 — Awareness of the Awareness and Working with Objects23 Apr 2018
- 63 minQ&A 03 — Using Questions to Arouse Interest23 Apr 2018
- 714 minQ&A 04 — Maintaining Awareness While Talking and in Vipassanā23 Apr 2018
- 81 hr 45 minGroup 03 — Open Awareness and Everything Is Nature24 Apr 2018
- 91 hr 57 minGroup 04 — Tension, Motivation, and Cause and Effect24 Apr 2018
- 1013 minQ&A 05 — Investigating Anger and the Mind's Process24 Apr 2018
Transcript
ZH
我想请教禅师一个实际的例子，因为我觉得这样子从这个"疼"的感觉听起来有点空泛。如果这个所缘是我工作职场的老板，我天天要看到他，就跟着他一起工作，那我看到这个老板可能我就会生起，就是生起不善心、瞋心，或是跟这个老板的沟通无法沟通。那如果是这样子的所缘的时候，我应该要怎么面对？
English
She wants to use a real-world example.
English
Say the object is her boss at work, so every day when she sees the boss, the dislike arises, so she can't communicate normally. So in this situation, what to do?
English
So you cannot avoid your boss, right?
English
But you can watch your anger.
English
The boss is not important.
English
Important is your anger. If you really understand, want to understand the nature of anger, then every time you saw your boss, the anger arising, then you need to learn from the anger. So if you understand, some understand arising because of anger, watch the anger.
English
Sometimes you can understand some principle about what is the anger, how the anger working, why the anger arising. If you understand very well, everybody, any object, the mind cannot be angry anymore. So angry is more interesting. The boss is not interesting.
ZH
禅师说对于禅修者来讲，老板不是一个有趣的所缘，是自己的这个瞋心、染心是一个有趣的所缘。因为当这些事发生，因为你可能已经比较习惯了，这个是一个主要所发生的事。当这个事发生的时候，我们就应该反观，就是自己的瞋心，去了解它，就是经常地去，持续地去观察，每一次产生的时候你都去观察的，你可能会明白为什么它是会这样，是什么导致它这样，之后它会怎么样。就是当我们了解这个瞋心的时候，我们当我们遇到不如意的所缘，这个未必是我们的老板，但是我们的瞋心，可能它的原因都是不外乎这，就是你已经知道了，所以可以保护到自己的心，不让它就是说遇到不可意的所缘，你的瞋心可能是没有那么厉害的。
English
Yeah, this boss.
English
The boss is?
ZH
就是其实老板是在帮我们，让我们去观察自己的瞋心，是一个助缘。
English
When you understand
English
the nature of defilement, craving or angry, the defilement is less and less and less.
ZH
当我们培养了，就是了解了这些染心、贪心或者瞋心，就是我们已经有智慧明了它的时候，它们会弱了，它们会少了，会减少的。
English
So you can use the defilement as an object, natural object, and grow your wisdom.
ZH
我们可以用这些染心作为一个自然的目标所缘，而培育我们的智慧。
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Sayadaw U Tejaniya began his Buddhist training as a young teenager in Burma under the late Shwe Oo Min Sayadaw (1913–2002). After a career in business and life as a householder, he has become a permanent monk since 1996.…