Q&AShwe Oo Min Dhamma Sukha Retreat25 Aug 2017
Dhamma discussion — Wrong Attitude, Identification and Anger
Sayadaw U Tejaniya · 1 hr 4 min
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The Sayadaw clarifies how to observe anger and defilements with right attitude rather than suppressing them. Maintaining continuous awareness builds wisdom, while a single object can temporarily help calm strong emotions.
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Transcript
EnglishSometimes if you want to talk at 10:30 a.m., you can come here. If you want to ask something, 9:30 a.m. you can come here.
EnglishBecause you are only 10 days, right? You already listened to the instructions already? Yes. Before you—what did you practice before? Which practice? Which method did you practice? I have done a—this is my eighth retreat. No, no, no. Before you practiced, which way did you practice before?
EnglishWhatever you practice before. Goenka? Goenka, and many. Oh, okay, okay. Good.
EnglishI want to know. Huh? Oh, I want to know about your history. Another way to look at the experience.
EnglishBut when the mind has wrong attitude, it becomes real suffering. Yes. The suffering is double. Yeah, because the object is defilement. Suffering, and then the watching mind is defilement. And the watching mind
Englishwill say, "What's wrong with you?" And all the identification, like, and wants the suffering to end. That's why
Englishif you—someone who can meditate means he's skillful how to watch
Englishpresent or unpresent experience, object, whatever object, present or unpresent. The watching mind must be equivalent. That means he can practice very well. That means some understanding with awareness. That's why the watching mind is equivalent.
EnglishThe experience is sometimes present or unpresent.
EnglishBut this is not my control of the watching mind. Sometimes it has right attitude. Yeah, depends on your quality of watching mind. If your watching mind has right attitude and awareness of understanding is strong, the watching mind must be equivalent. But then the weak, we say it's a weak. That's why the wrong attitude can come, right?
EnglishAnd so when the mind has wrong attitude and I try to apply the right attitude, remind myself, and watch the feelings. And sometimes it can go very well. Like one time I go to the meditation for—and then I was doing walking meditation, so I pay attention to the seeing and the feeling at the same time.
EnglishAnd then the story is gone. It's only the unpleasant feeling. So it's not a big deal. It's like feeling, just feeling. And it's like watching a silent movie. It's a movie. If you don't have a wrong idea or wrong judgment, then experience that object is object, and it's no problem.
EnglishOh, object. It's like the mind has faith. Yes. And like quiet and watching the feeling. That means your awareness with the wisdom is already there. So object is no suffering, also no problem. But not all the time like this. Sometimes it's like watching a horror movie.
EnglishAnd the feeling with the story and all the— That time you should aware of the misattitude idea. I hear you. But—so that's why I said defilement is the object defilement, and watching mind in the defilement, this defilement is more important. Yeah, this is more compelling. You take care of this defilement first.
EnglishI think the identification is the key. It's like this is— Identification means it's a wrong idea already. Already. Because there's no wisdom, no understanding. That's why identification comes. Identification comes, the emotion comes. What can I do at that moment? I can only— So check your idea about this.
EnglishWhat attitude, what idea, and meditating.
EnglishSo you need to check all the time your watching mind, right?
EnglishSo later and later, you are more careful about
Englishthe view, idea, view. This is more important. The last one is idea. Right idea, everything okay. Wrong idea, everything problem. Even the watching meditating also this idea, right? So you need to more check in about what idea and you practice,
Englishright?
EnglishAnd when the idea changes, the perception of the experience also changes. So. Right. So the— That's why experience is not real. Yeah. Right? It's like something I think this way, and then I go to meditate, I call my mind and— But people, they try to follow the experience all the time. Experience is depend on your quality of mind. The experience will change. Yeah.
EnglishSo I want to report about the identification. It feels like this: if the defilement mind comes, and if there's no my story, I, it feels like there's only one mind and other mind. It's just like— Just mind, mind, identity. Yeah, just one part of the mind.
EnglishAnd if identification with the defilement mind, it's just like the whole picture is all the— Every mind is— Every mind is. Yeah. It feels a bit like this one. This is a long idea, long, and very long, it's a long time ago, and very old, and very old habit, and very strong. So how to get rid of this identification?
EnglishVery difficult to get rid of it. Only way is when you understanding nature as it is, all right, cause and effect, every time. Because of this understanding about the cause and effect, then it's a present that identification cannot do. Right? Only this understanding about another. Another means is understanding about cause and effect.
EnglishSo you need to collect this understanding, cause and effect, cause and effect, many times to grow this idea of nature. Nature, there's no body. Nature, cause and effect process, cause and effect process, try to grow, cultivate this understanding. It depends on your understanding level. The identification comes and weaker and stronger and weaker. That's all.
EnglishYeah. I need to see the—and
Englishalso, I had a very interesting observation about my reaction to people. And I find out suddenly with some people, you will have this kind of attitude. And some people, it just—and then I think, "Why?" And then I found out because people's facial expression.
EnglishYou know, when people face smiling, and you feel kind of, okay, liking. Actually— And they—and you feel like if they smiling, like they like me. If they seriously— Actually, this is not important. This is not really cause, not real cause. But the perception. Perception, your mind.
EnglishI know. It's the perception. Yeah. For example, your husband, sometimes you have to come like this so he feels right.
EnglishHe's not very organized mind. Sometimes he angry, but you—no problem, right? No, he can be organized.
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Sayadaw U Tejaniya began his Buddhist training as a young teenager in Burma under the late Shwe Oo Min Sayadaw (1913–2002). After a career in business and life as a householder, he has become a permanent monk since 1996.…