Q&ANirodha Insight Meditation in Finland Retreat6 Jun 2019
Week 2 day 6 group E — Agitation and Cultivating Interest in Practice
Sayadaw U Tejaniya · 23 min
Original audio: Burmese · English interpretation
0:00−23:57
Uses compressed audio.
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This group interview covers raising children with right view, managing an agitated mind, and practicing alongside close relations. The teacher advises returning to a neutral object when agitation escalates, and always observing one's own mind.
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Transcript
English
Um, yeah, okay. So we're starting, it seems.
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I just want to say thank you. I— I think I have learned something that I can keep using from now on. And, um,
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I have— don't have any question at the moment, so.
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Yeah, sometimes when I have a aware moment, it reminds me of childhood, and I— then I think, like, when I was a child I was very aware. I was in touch with
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nature and every experience. So I— this got me thinking, uh,
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I'd like to know, like, how is childhood seen in Buddhism? Is it like, are children kind of pure and— no, are they kind of free of this
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unwholesome
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attributes, or— and how should we think about, for instance, when we're raising children?
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What should we have in mind?
[Burmese segment]
MY
Sayadaw says um bring up children with metta and wisdom. That's the best way to bring them up. And, and in Buddhism
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Yeah. And in bringing up children, , instead of trying to, um, make them fit our idea of what is good or safe or right for them, , we need to teach them the skills so that they can choose what is right and beneficial for themselves and wise. And, um, and yeah, teach them to be strong
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on themselves. And , in, in Buddhism, children are, um, considered to be, uh, full of delusion. They don't know yet. They may have direct experience of, of their, of their senses, but they don't know how to interpret things.
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So, , that's why wisdom in teaching children is so important, because we form, help them form their perceptions. They form some of them themselves. But, um, you know, where possible, you, you want to, um, in nature versus nurture. In the nurture part, you want to be able to give the input of metta and wisdom so that, um— Right, information is people who come through— So that they have the right—
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. So they have the right information and the right view. He says when, and the reason, I mean, you can see that children don't, the, the delusion in children in that, , for example, when they, um, have bad experiences or something, sometimes the trauma that children experience can be much deeper because there is, it's like an empty, it's like an empty plate or slate, and then when some, some mark is made on it, it's very deep and it can feel indelible.
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So, so, so that's why he says you want to
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begin by giving them, you know, right information and so on. So to form their wisdom. Um, and also because they don't know, when they do things, they can do it very with lots of, like, full power, full, you know, and they can do things very unskillfully or skillfully as well. And you want to guide that, those actions as well, towards the skillful by example.
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Yeah. . He says, the way the mind works, , um, when it doesn't know something and it grasps something strongly, it, um, it holds on very tight when the mind doesn't know or understand. And when it grasps something very tight, it's very hard to un- to get the mind to let go of an idea when it doesn't know better.
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So these, these go into the subconscious and they don't know they're holding these ideas. So, um, that's why you want to help. So some examples of this are like fear of falling or fear of height, things that, you know, are learned when they are young from experience, yeah.
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Thank you.
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Uh, yes, I could maybe tell first something about my practice these last two days, and then I think I have a question as well. Uh,
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um, practice has been, has been getting better. Now I've been, I've been, like, during the time trying to, uh, use less energy and more subtle way of meditation and more natural awareness, what Sayadaw said.
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And I think it's, it has started to, uh, working more. So it's very, very good. I'm very, very happy related to that. And, and I think there's lots of, lots of work still to do. So that, that I think will be my main goal and trying to be aware. Yeah. Um, all the time.
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Yeah, and, and it has also brought, uh, like more, more relaxedness in the practice. And I see it's, uh, good.
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Only maybe the one, one thing that I would like to ask is that, um, which I'm not totally sure that usually when before this retreat, when, and also during the retreat, sometimes when I feel like I'm agitated and maybe my mind is restless or I feel like I'm in my head too much, uh, what should I, how should I, uh, continue in, for example, when if I begin, uh, to come aware and then start meditating.
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And usually I would, uh, I would concentrate more on my body and maybe belly area to, to get more grounded. And is this, uh, what, what Sayadaw think, think of this and are there some tips related to this? .
[Burmese segment]
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Sayadaw U Tejaniya began his Buddhist training as a young teenager in Burma under the late Shwe Oo Min Sayadaw (1913–2002). After a career in business and life as a householder, he has become a permanent monk since 1996.…